I have noticed a lot of discourse on the topic of boundaries - a psychology term used to describe limits and rules for yourself and your relationships. Boundaries can be healthy or unhealthy - porous or rigid - physical, time, mental, emotional, material, internal, conversational (source). Some individuals need more boundaries (ex: codependency, people pleasers),… Continue reading Therapy Speak and Boundaries
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Stinking Thinking: Cognitive Distortions
Why is it that we, all too often, are our own worst enemy? Consider it a conflict between the soul and the ego. I relate this to the cartoon trope, where a character’s internal conflict is portrayed by a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other. The ego, the little devil in… Continue reading Stinking Thinking: Cognitive Distortions
Identify Your Inner Critic So You Can Challenge It
We all have an inner critic, that critical inner voice, often described as a “subpersonality” that judges and demeans us on a daily basis. It tries to keep us small, self-sabotages, and listens to our fears. The voice stems from our childhood, based on the harsh remarks and criticisms from our caregivers that actually changed… Continue reading Identify Your Inner Critic So You Can Challenge It
Learning to find your intuitive voice
Metaphorical, of course, but I like to believe our mind works in layers. We experience the world, where we hear and constantly filter the words of others. That’s the outermost layer. Underneath that, we have thoughts that appear in our conscious mind. All of these thoughts come from a million different sources, like the words… Continue reading Learning to find your intuitive voice
Lessons I Learned From 2022
Happiness starts from within. Every New Year’s Day, for the past few years, I chose a theme for the year, an intention. Rather than making a lofty resolution, it gives me something positive to reflect on at the end of the year. 2020 was a focus on my career, after completing graduate school. As a… Continue reading Lessons I Learned From 2022
Unique ways to connect with your inner child
The hurt of childhood wounds can last a lifetime. Our roots are deep and can be incredibly painful to untangle. As difficult as it can be, healing requires connecting to the child within without judgement. It involves leaving space to sit with the fragmented parts of yourself that experienced things it couldn’t understand - like… Continue reading Unique ways to connect with your inner child
Stages of Change
Do we ever really change? Are we doomed to repeat the same unhealthy patterns for the rest of our lives? We have the ability to rewire our brains and are constantly evolving. But how exactly do we start? There is something called the Transtheoretical Model or the 5 Stages of Change. First, we may recognize… Continue reading Stages of Change
Taking Risks: The Key to Lasting Change
Our first steps, first day of school, first date, first kiss, first job, first place of our own, first marriage, first child. All of our lives consist of firsts. As children we navigate the world with fresh eyes. We constantly depend on our caregivers, because everything is a risk. Then as teenagers, we dive in… Continue reading Taking Risks: The Key to Lasting Change
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs to Level Up Your Life
What are the things that hold you back from reaching your fullest potential? I am of the opinion that our beliefs can often be self-imposed limits. It’s tempting to blame all of our negative circumstances on external factors, “if it wasn’t for __ then I’d be happy”. Of course we all have different lives and… Continue reading Overcoming Limiting Beliefs to Level Up Your Life
10 Nonfiction Books That Changed My Life in 10 Years
Over the years, I have found comfort in great works of literature. Several, creative pieces of fiction have offered a means of well-needed escapism. Though there are so many ways to relate to Harry’s loyalty to his friends or the struggles in Frodo’s journey - I have most truly met myself through works of nonfiction.… Continue reading 10 Nonfiction Books That Changed My Life in 10 Years